As a woman who married at the age of 26, I took in to consideration the assumptions this article made. And I got perturbed. Pretty much all of my friends got married in their 20s, and while I won't assume I know their reasons for marrying when they did, I can almost guarantee it wasn't for the reasons listed in the article!
The WP article was derived from a series of interviews for a book entitled 'Trash the Dress: Celebrating Divorce in Your 20s'. I have to say, I'm sad a book like this is even being written. Not because I think women should be in bad relationships or marriages, but because of the unrealistic expectation women (at any age!) may have about what getting married means (which may be the REAL reason why many marriages fail)....
Call me crazy, but I believe if you enter a marriage expecting life to be perfect, or that marriage will solve all your problems, or that you can change your spouse, or that it will never be hard, YOU WIll Be Disappointed With What You Find! Regardless of your age, vocation or reasons for getting married.
The Vow, a recent Hollywood blockbuster, is based on a true story about a young couple who married in their 20's and overcame seemingly insurmountable odds to make their marriage work. Car accident, amnesia, the whole 9 yards. In my opinion, there should be more attention paid to stories like theirs. In all reality, whether you marry in your 20's, 30's or 80's--marriage will take UNCONDITIONAL love, commitment, and a willingness to stand by your vows 'for better, or for worse.'
2 comments:
I agree! As someone who married at 23, we got a little extra councling from our priest just for that reason. But I think you have to realize the severity of the vows and mean them no matter the age. I would have married my husband at any age because I'm proud to be his wife :)
Thanks for commenting, Emily!! :) I think extra counseling is GREAT! We did 8 weeks with our pastors and it has done a world of good! :)
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